Well, it is true. The long time is gone. You might sense it. I sense it too.
Yeah, you complain i have changed. But did you take a look at yourself too? You have changed quite a lot also, not just me. We were friends. Yes we were. We had fun, we partied. But any party would have come to an end. We all know, when we find the significant one in our life, our life would change totally. We have foresee it.
You changed quite a lot since the time you found your significant one. And i had changed to. I feel less comfortable around you. Not because i feel jealous of your relationship. I am totally happy for you and your significant one. I really feel happy for you. Finally you found your other half. You can finally enjoy your emotion. You finally have someone to take care for you, someone for you to take care of.
But i changed too. I dont want to be around you too much. It is really weird to hang around friends when they are in love. I dont know if this is normal to other people, to you, and to the rest of the world, but it is not normal for me. Usually i never want to interrupt people life, not at all. so when they are busy with their life, i usually get a way from them, and let them enjoy the moment. I dont want to get in and be nosy. Also, you already have some one, why would i come in and interrupt this special moment. It is not really cool, it is not very wise.
What would that person think, if i am still hanging around you like best friends used to be? Yeah, you would argue that it is normal, that friends are forever. Yeah, friends are forever. But it does mean they are with each other forever. We need some private moment too. We are of different genders. it is not wise for me to hang around you and your significant one. What would that person think? i dont care how many time you say it is normal. That your significant ones would be ok. That the person wound mind, and that person would accept our friendship as it was, now, and in the future. But did anyone tell you that human are selfish? they dont have the tendency to share things they love, nor the things that are valuable to them. Just because a person says he/she is ok with sharing, doesnt really mean he/she is really ok. how would you feel if your significant ones spend the time for other important people more than spending time with you? you might say you are ok with it. I dont know. But logic is logic, just because you are ok, doesnt really mean it is ok. I just have to take to wise consideration to protect everything. Just to be safe.
I also dont feel really comfortable hangout with you, your significant one, and the rest of the group, when you totally ignore the whole group. You might not mean to do it, i totally understand. You might not know about it, or just might not even have feeling about it. But it is true. Friends around you dont feel comfortable going out as a group. They seems to feel uncomfortable going our with your couple in particular. But it is ok, i can totally understand. You need to take care for your other ones, you cannot leave that person alone, it is not right. Totally. You chose a very correct choice.
Well, it is ok. We might not gonna be as normal as before, but we are still friends. we are still going to hang out, just not as comfortable as before, or as often as before. The would and always will be an invisible barrier between us now. It is normal. When make an relationship with someone else, we are actually direct our history into another path. You can no longer keep everything the same.
Dont get me wrong. We are still friends. Just not the same kind of friending like before. Think about it. This happen to you before. You have suffered this same situation before when suddenly your friend turn into another path, that no longer in the same direction with you. And ask yourself, are you and that person the same as you two were used to be? of course not.
Now it is just dating, things already get to this level. Imagine later, when everyone has family, with husband/wife to take care of, and kids to watch out for. How awkward would that become?
It is ok. Hope you always enjoy what every you have. Friends forever.
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