My friends, this time periods has so many troubles. Seeing them suffering and loosing their grip doesn’t really me feel happy. I just want to record something here in hope that once everything over, they can look back and at least see how much they have grown during the time.
First, is my friend named B. He used to be a not well-behaved boy of the time. He was fun and energetic for his age, and thoughtless about his action. He didnt really care much on what he says, does, or thinks. He was always put his effort in the wrong things. He went to school without a consideration to study well. He went to school for funs. After many times talking to him, I didn’t seem to see his reason for studying well. He used to tell me his favorite is cooking. He wanted to cook his favorite foods. To cook and make the good sushi is his only interest and strongest skills at the time being. I was also not a very good friend. I wasn’t a strong influence to talk him into studying. I always thought that if a person doesn’t have a strong desire to studying, forcing him against his wills will only cause a negative result. So, i used to say, “Do what you like, It wouldn’t be that bad.”
So he kept slacking off. I thought for a moment that he is ok, he will be doing well with the cooking and own a restaurant and be a rich owner later. Well, it was just my thought.
Suddenly, he became more serious into studying. There was a cause to that. He fell in love in a relationship that seems to be impossible. The other party doesn’t seem to accept his heart. He wanted to change, to become a different person. He studied more seriously, became a more serious person, and responsible more for his actions. He changed completely. It was a good start to him. I think he has seen the important of studying, of having a degree. He found his path in life to follow. I was happy for him.
His other party doesn’t seem so satisfy. That person seems his changes as good enough for the approval. Maybe he can senses it, he study even harder and harder. Well, it is good for him. Looking at him now, no one would think he used to be such a slacker a few years back. They would see a person that has a destined goal to achieve, a responsible person someone can depend on. But would that other party see it? Maybe she does, maybe she can see and feel it, but due to the human tendency not feeling satisfy on what they currently have, she wanted more from him. Maybe he has to be such a hypocrite doctor, engineer, or even CEO of such her dream. Maybe one day when he can show his white blouse as a doctor, or his hairless head as an engineer then she might feel satisfy enough to say ok to him. So only education degree can prove your true love to one person? So he has to prove he can study as hard and as good as other people to show that he truly love a person? Understandable that we need to change to show our love, but why the other party have give such a challenge? I understand this is just to push him study harder and become better, it also help him to get better grade and become a better. He has given up so much for what? That person he likes (maybe loves) always puts him in such a situation that i feel as those he is worthless, not even worth anything for her consideration. Is it a good thing to do?
I don’t want to blame anything on anyone. But if you have push and challenge a person so hard, wouldn’t it fair to at least give them something to hope for? or maybe give them something to feel proud for what they have done? Don’t give any incentives for something we did will eventually kills the wills in a person to do better. They will once again lost their hope, and give up entirely.
Does love really have that much power to change people? In this story, it was a good cause. It helps a friend of mine to see the world in a different sense and become a more responsible person.
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The next story is dedicated for another one name M. Well, this person is weird
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